T. Miller's Eulogy

The following eulogy was written by T's widow, Irene, and was read to those who attended T's funeral service at St. Leo's Church by T's long-time friend Bryant Firmin.

To Our Family and Friends:

This last year has been a struggle for my husband and myself. “T” became ill the summer of 2001, shortly after our move to North Leominster. Although he never complained, I knew how sick he felt. He needed a liver transplant and by spring a kidney transplant too. “I’ll be alright” he would assure me. “I’ll fight this because I want to be with you.”

“T” spent most of the last seven months in the Intensive Care Unit at the UMASS Medical Center. We never gave up hope. Our love for each other flourished with each trying day. If you asked “T” how he felt, he’d say, “I’ve never been happier.” He asked me to marry him in the ICU. We had the most beautiful wedding. He’s the only guy I know who could pull off having his feet rubbed during his wedding ceremony. He never looked at me the way he did on our wedding day. He loved me with his eyes and he started winking at me a lot. “I love you more,” he would say to me often.

“T” had an enormous amount of courage and strength. If I cried out of fear, he would cup my face in his hand and comfort me with his love. I know he felt scared at times. That’s when he would ask me to rub his forehead. He always had a smile and a glow that no sickness could tamper with.

“T” was surrounded by his family when he left this world. He was not frightened but appeared more surprised by whatever he had seen just before he crossed over. His pain and suffering ended and there was a peace. His tears were only because he had to leave us.

I was and still am blessed by his love. I know that he was loved by many people. It was wonderful to hear how he touched so many of you. And I know you will miss him too. But when you miss “T” Miller, do what I do. Place your hand over your heart and you will feel him. He’s Right There!